ADOPTION - TO CARE AND SHARE
Hi my name is Neil Hudson.
You may have read some of the other stuff I have written for this
We adopted a little boy 2 years ago; heís called Jack. This is my
account of my reasoning and need to adopt.
It is also for guidance and reference from a point of view of someone
thatís been there and done it.
Iíll try to keep it as light hearted as I can; though some of the
stories surrounding our reasoning to adopt is very painful.
So let us start from the beginning.
Iím a survivor of IVF. Iíve had the joys and the excruciating pains.
I have to go into some depth here for it to have impact.
The Joys. 3.10.94.
My son Sam, I remember the first time I saw him. He was 3 months
premature some 2lb 4oz, he was perfect. He was the size of my hand,
wrapped in a tin foil blanket; he was ventilated and very fed up
about it. It was an incredible sight, tiny hands and feet and then
you saw the scale of the fingernails, a perfect body scaled down
to tiny proportions.
Sam did however become critically ill for some 2 weeks and was left
with cerebral palsy, this is spoken about in detail in the head
injury page. My son has various difficulties but has maintained
a high standard of health and †Iím delighted to say heís in mainstream
He is doing extremely well and is now 6 years old.
Before we had Sam we had already tried IVF which was unsuccessful,
Suzanne miscarried very early on, literally a couple of weeks.
Anyone who has been there knows how hard this is, it was nothing
compared with what was to follow.
Sam was a twin, my little girl Laura was stillborn.
Sam also became extremely ill with pneumonia and for a time it looked
as though he might die. Luckily he pulled through but low oxygen
levels left him with Cerebral Palsy.
As you can imagine this was an extremely traumatic experience,
one which we did not wish to repeat. As we both wanted another child
adoption seemed an ideal solution.